What do women really want has remained an age-long question.
Good looks, chemistry, security, and money are some of the superficial qualities and early indicators of compatibility women look out for. But women often want a lot more than meets the eye. And valentine doesn’t change that!
Women and their emotions can sometimes be complicated, leaving men folks scratching their heads to the question- what do women really want? Here are some answers.
9 things women really want
Men might be surprised to see this as the No.1 quality of what women want.
In dedicating much of her time, energy, talent, acquisitions, emotions to fostering stability in every sphere of her life, a woman in return simply wants to be first appreciated in return.
A woman by virtue of her complex hormonal make up, is an emotional being. The female hormones play a major part in who and how a woman turns out to be and thus should not be taken for granted.
Most men are not familiar with “hormonal wiring of the feminine gender”, and are often taken aback by women’s sentimental outbursts.
Women therefore need empathy, patience and understanding.
- Listen, not fix
A listening ear is one of a woman’s greatest needs. She just doesn’t want to be heard; she wants to be listened to. You have to learn to listen to not only what she says, but what she doesn’t say.
A woman wants to be heard, her inborn intuitive abilities valued, and her sense of intimacy encouraged.
Men feel the need to fix things because they are solution-oriented. But when something’s bothering women, they want your ear, not your advice.
- Good old fashioned love
A woman wants to thrive and grow by being loved, adored, supported and not intimidated by narcissism, abuse and manipulation.
Good old love never goes out of fashion, even for the world’s most glamorous women.
- Integrity (and trustworthiness)
Let’s be real here. Men cheat. But so do women too! We are not just talking about cheating in isolation. What we mean here is having integrity as a whole.
Having integrity means acting virtuously and having a strong moral character. Women desire a man who is honorable, fair, and trustworthy.
Let’s be honest, a woman needs a man who can provide for the family. Contrary to what most men think, the woman doesn’t necessarily need the man to be a millionaire, but she wants him to have dignity and a sense of responsibility.
When a man believes in himself, knows who he is, and knows what he wants, it’s very appealing to a woman, and is usually something she can tell simply from the attitude he exudes.
While women want a man who is confident and self-assured, they don’t want a man who is overbearing, has to be the center of attention, and thinks he’s the most important person in the world.
Women respond to the positive and upbeat energy a confident man is putting out in the world, so long as that confidence doesn’t overextend into egotism.
- Don’t try to be perfect
Can you believe it? Woman prefer personal growth to perfection. Nothing captures a woman’s heart quite like a good man who wants to be a better man.
Women like it when their men recognize a flaw — a short temper, for example, or a regularly sullen mood after work — and love it when they make an effort to address it.
- Say it, again and again
Women like to be told they look nice, and they like a man who notices without being told. When they are wearing a gorgeous new dress, or a new hair look, they love to hear you say it again and again.
It may seem like women are asking for too much in a man. Valentine, or no Valentine. All they want is some pampering, respect and tender loving care. Knowing what a woman really wants is not as difficult as you think.
I know so, as I’m a woman.
By Funke Kehinde